When somebody is experiencing sadness, pain, or any kind of suffering, people quote the ayah "Allah does not put a burden more than you can bear" (paraphrased).
The human body and mind is astonishingly resillient to all sorts of 'burdens' when the person mentally makes him/her-self believe that they can overcome it.
Like, when I watch shows such as Guiness Book of REcords, or Ripley's Believe it or Not, or any other stunt show, or any other horrific accident around the world, I see the human mind and body is capable of many things, regardless of who they are. We've all got the potential and 'Practice makes perfect'.
Weak, strong, young, old, - it doesn't matter. My grandpa passed away recently at age 92, and he had intestinal cancer. The doctors said that he should be screaming out of pain non-stop within a few months, but we never heard him scream. He would always keep quiet. And on his last moments, he only grabbed onto things because of the pain, but didn't scream. Others on the hand, would probably have screamed like mad. Does that mean, those people who scream, cannot bear the pain?
Another example... some people live happy lives, when suddenly struck by an illness. Other people in their situation can bear it, but they cannot. They get all depressed and eventually suicidal.
One might argue that the reason why that person could not bear it, is because they didn't remember Allah, they didn't have strong will power. Firstly, many non-Muslims are able to cope with suffering without remembering Allah... secondly, if they didn't have the will power, then how do we say that they weren't burdened more than which they could have beared?
So I'm wondering...
is it really a case of how much we can bear, or is it more about whether we have the will power to handle it? You might look at a person in a wheelchair, and might think, "Alhamdulillah for my state.. if i were in his position, I don't know what I'd do." -- but then imagine you cannot walk one day, are you still going to say the same thing? Most probably you will find new ways to deal with your newfound life.
But there are some people, who's life experiences, the way they were brought, their own values and beliefs, etc cause them to collapse and kill themselves. For example, in regards to those who suicide, we say they should have trusted in God but how would you say this to them (before they kill themselves) when everything in their life just kept on going wrong? If it was a one off thing that they were depressedabout, fine.. but what if they were abused as children, bullied at school, lost best friends and family, put in prison, drugged up, betrayed, and all that crap, how much is a person expected to bear?
Edited by Astral, 01 May 2005 - 06:02 PM.